By Jessica Schiff, Counsellor
The term “highly sensitive person” (HSP) is appearing more often these days. It doesn’t refer to a mental health diagnosis, but rather to a personality trait that affects how some people experience the world. For many, heightened sensitivity comes with both gifts and challenges.
When Sensitivity Shapes Everyday Life
A highly sensitive person might avoid violence or emotionally intense situations, find beauty in small details, or feel deeply moved by music, art, or nature. They often need more quiet time to recharge and may feel overwhelmed by loud sounds, bright lights, or strong emotions. Many have an active inner world and tend to notice things others overlook.
This depth of feeling often goes hand in hand with strong empathy. While empathy is a wonderful strength, it can also be tiring. Highly sensitive people sometimes absorb the emotions of others to the point of exhaustion. It’s also common to see this trait alongside other conditions, such as autism spectrum disorder (ASD), attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), or other mental health challenges.
Supporting a Highly Sensitive Loved One
Family members and friends play a crucial role in helping a sensitive person feel understood and supported. Sensitivity is not something to “fix,” but rather a way of experiencing life that deserves respect and balance.
Here are a few ways to help:
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Respect their need for calm and space. Too much stimulation can be draining.
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Encourage open and gentle communication. Listening without judgment goes a long way.
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Acknowledge their strengths. Sensitivity often comes with creativity, intuition, and deep care for others.
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Maintain healthy boundaries. Taking care of your own needs helps preserve harmony in the relationship.
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Suggest professional support if needed. Therapy can provide strategies to manage stress and emotions more effectively.
Sensitivity Is Not a Weakness
We live in a world that often labels emotional depth as “too much.” But sensitivity is not a flaw—it’s a different way of being in the world. For families and friends, learning about this trait helps replace frustration with empathy and understanding.